children's therapy scottsdale

Children’s Therapy in Scottsdale

children's therapy scottsdaleIs my child’s behavior normal?

It’s often hard to know if… or when… to help.

Why is Sam lying to me about something so small? He should know if he tells the truth, I won’t be mad.

Ava is not hanging out with her friends anymore… Was she bullied? Is she depressed?

Does it seem like Jimmy is working too hard trying to please and keep up? He seems stressed and on-edge…

Your brain is probably working on overload trying to figure it out… Should I intervene? How!?

Frequent problems family and child therapists work through are…

It’s challenging to make sense of emotions – especially for infants, children, and adolescents.

Your child can worry and have anxiety over seemingly simple things or things they may not verbalize, leaving it difficult for you to know what to say or do to help them.

Children have an especially hard time identifying their emotions while trying to navigate through life. Heck, it’s even hard for adults to grasp what we’re sometimes feeling! How can we expect a youngster to know what’s going on and how to deal?

When kids don’t have a context to explore their feelings, they tend to lash out with anger, rage, down in the dirt-hurt, isolation, or other concerning childhood behaviors.

Do you know how often we hear the word “tantrum”?

counseling for children scottsdale

The issues kids face are BIG!

We need to realize (or remember) what it was like to be young. This is often hard for us, as parents, because the challenges we adults face can seem much more pressing, but…

Kids (during the time in life when perception and personalities are being shaped) are dealing with significant life experiences such as bullying, social issues, self-confidence, fear, feeling lost or alone, and so much more.

Counseling for children and families initially establishes two key principles…
1) Helping parents understand that their children’s emotions are valid and that behaviors often arise to get underlying needs met.
2) Teaching children that the issues they face are indeed difficult, their emotions are valid, and that learning to understand and navigate those emotions can empower them to self-advocate for their needs and better tolerate life’s ups and downs.

These kids need an open floor with regulated parents so they can properly process their big emotions. If you give them that safe space to openly express themselves, set limits when needed, and not fear their emotions – you may find it easier to connect with them. That connection is exactly what they are needing.

Early intervention through child counseling is a proactive parenting approach.

As kids grow, the challenges they face can get harder, and sometimes they don’t just go away. Regardless of the countless positive memories and experiences they have, they often don’t offset the impact of the bad experiences.

For example, a bullying incident in third grade can lead a child to believe that people don’t like them and that they are unworthy. These beliefs can become deeply ingrained in their psyche, literally forming imprints in their neural pathways. It’s important to note that not every instance of bullying constitutes trauma; it depends on how the brain interprets the event at the time. If the brain triggers the body’s natural stress response, causing a fight or flight reaction, this experience is stored as trauma. Even seemingly small events can have a profound impact. We refer to these as “Little T” traumas, in contrast to “Big T” traumas, such as car accidents.

In children’s therapy, as in therapy for anyone, our goal is not to unearth trauma unnecessarily. Instead, we focus on identifying and addressing the sources of present-day discomfort or symptoms, which often stem from childhood traumatic events. By targeting and rewiring negative core beliefs formed through early trauma, we can alleviate symptoms and put the adolescent forward on a brighter trajectory.

 

best therapist for kids scottsdaleYou and your child are unique and deserving.

Every child is unique and needs a different approach – we utilize various modalities, such as play therapy, art therapy, sand tray therapy, EMDR, and DBT to get to the root of their struggles and build them up from there.

During our therapy sessions, your child will be guided in understanding their emotions and regaining a sense of control.

They’ll learn to communicate their needs more effectively, fostering better understanding between you and them. Additionally, they’ll develop skills to respond more positively to your requests as parents.

They will also be encouraged to express their feelings and set boundaries with others, paving the way for healthier relationships.

Counselors understand that parents are the MVPs!

Parental feelings of guilt, shame, and exasperation are genuine. You have the world’s hardest job!

Our goal is to not only make your child feel heard, but also to provide YOU, the parents, with tools and insights on how to connect and foster healthy communication and love within your home. We’ll be your listening ear and will be there to validate and laugh with you along the way. We want to support you in widening your window of tolerance so you can better manage the big emotions your kids are experiencing.

Each family is different, so some days the sessions might just be with the kiddo, some days may be split half alone and half together, and some days may be just the parent(s) solo. We work hard to take into account exactly what you and your child need!

You want the best for your child…

The path we help them establish now can support them as they grow into their teen and adult years. Providing your child with the right resources today can contribute to their happiness and success both now and in the future.

Let’s take this journey together.

If you are ready to work with a children’s therapist near you in the Scottsdale/Phoenix area, please reach out today at (480) 485-8824 to set up a no-obligation phone consultation. Please notes that the first consult call is typically just with the therapist and the parent(s), and if you find the therapist is a good fit for your family, then we’ll schedule a session for the initial intake with the child present.